I know Im probably completely overthinking it. I wracked my brain trying to figure out what I did or said to cause this change. ", Log in or create an account to add episodes. If youre like most girls, then you know that it takes time for a guy to start talking about his feelings. This is a big one. You know he likes you, but hes not ready to do anything about it yet. And this can be hard for both you and him to deal with at times. But if he really likes you, then he will learn how to start a conversation with you. It could actually be the case that you make him get uncomfortable. If this is the case then he would still likely show a number of the signals of attraction mentioned above but it would also be likely that he would try to make plans with you or mention that hes not busy when youre not. And what do you do if they dont show interest? So, if you encounter similar situations, do not panic and start to bug him with the questions on your mind like Are you having another woman outside? or I dont think you love me enough because you are not willing to share with me. Please consider donating to keep the site running. Either way, if he thinks that your relationship is moving way too fast, then you both need to sit down and talk it out. And it is possible that they have gotten into his head. Have his friends and family members been treating you differently and not in a good way? Get Love Tips Sent Straight To Your Inbox. Does he seem disinterested in you and what you have to say? But this week his energy has been way off. It could be the case that he actually doesnt like one of your friends. But once he does that, then hell be able to stop blaming himself for his bad moods and start taking control of his life. If that is the case then the reason that he gets quiet could be that he is trying to force himself to ask you out in his head but hes too nervous to do so. The problem is that guys feel like theyre supposed to be strong and confident, so they try to keep everything bottled up inside. And make sure that he knows what it is that makes him special to you. Jon found himself back in his parents room trying to find the least feminine items in his mothers wardrobe. Has his behavior been unpredictable lately? If hes decided hes no longer interested, that really sucks but Ill get over it. Its not a bad thing, per se, but it can be a bit alarming. So, should I ask him whats up? Does he sleep too much or too little? And if it is the reason, then you can work together to figure out how he can feel that you are not judging him all the time. You might think that you need to fill the silence with something witty, but this can just make them think youre boring. We dont know what to say, so we try to avoid eye contact while we think of something to say. It is not uncommon for guys to put up a wall when they are going through something stressful. I also wish that I could tell them the REAL reason why I am so quiet at that particular moment. He might be waiting until the right time comes along. If any of the above sounds like your relationship, then it might explain why he has been acting distant. "People inspire you, or they drain you - pick them wisely .". This was the first time hed seen it properly in the light of day. Some people are great at the beginning, they're happy to be in the infatuation stage b/c there's no emotional risk (you barely know each other), and a few months in, things start to develop, expectations form, and it becomes too much so they start to close off. To figure out if this is the case you should consider whether or not your friend has been mean to him in the past and whether or not he shows signs of discomfort towards your friend. He might be facing a crisis at work but didnt want you to get worried, so hes trying to think about how to resolve it. That is the sort of thing that makes the beginning stages of a relationship so passionate and fun. In person, we tend to look for things to talk about rather than listen to them. In short, when he doesnt trust his own feelings, it makes him feel that everything is uncertain and unpredictable. If he feels like he cannot talk to you, then, of course, he will watch what he says around you. Answer (1 of 9): He's nervous. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Have you done something in the past to hurt him? If his friends or family do not like you for some reason, then that will be tough for him, especially if he cares what they think. He might be less intimate with you lately or maybe he is hesitant to define your relationship when you try to bring up the subject, which is a big red flag. Zoe was in the hallway. Just tell him the truth about how you feel. 10. Sure, sometimes it's because I . Find out from him if this is the reason that he has been acting distant all of a sudden. Here are some signs of depression for you to look out for. If he is shy around you but not others then it would be more likely that he either finds you attractive or that he isnt comfortable with being himself around you because he doesnt know you well enough yet. We'll do some laundry after dinner," he said. Has he stopped texting you and calling you? Not so much in general of being coy, he could be realizing that now that he is sober, Everything has hit him like a ton of bricks that things could be Now More like: Potential partners and it is making him into Being------Shy and quiet. We all know the drill: when we like someone, we start to talk a lot. Its not always easy for guys to express their feelings, especially when they dont know how to do it right. "Well, take anything in the drawers," he said. It can also help if you have your own life that is separate from him. This is most apparent in the way that men typically communicate. "Probably," Simon said. What about your boundaries? There could be even something in the relationship that he is stressed out about. I created and currently manage Body Language Central, one of the premier sources for body language-related knowledge. And thats just not how life works! If he is quiet around you then it could be the case that he is attracted to you but he is too nervous to make a move. You will also have to be patient if he cannot always spend as much time with you as you would like him to. Whether he is busy with work, school, or personal matters, you have begun to notice that he is not nearly around as much as he used to be. He doesnt know what to say, but he still wants to be with you anyway. He could feel like you two are in the honeymoon stages and he does not want to move onto the next stage or chapter of things because things are going so well. If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach. "I'll go help Mikey find something. Are you always on his case and do you always try to tell him what to do or how to do things? So instead of telling you his concerns and letting you help him work through the issue, he just keeps it all bottled up inside. "Don't you have a pair of shorts or something I can borrow until tomorrow?". So, what does it mean if a guy is quiet around you? After all, a guy wants to be able to protect his women and make sure that nothing bad happens to them. Does he have friends who do not like you all that much? Guys are afraid that women will think that theyre not capable of handling their feelings, so they try to hide them. Well, you are right. We sometimes include products we think are useful for our readers. Another big sign that he is afraid of commitment is that he does not want to talk about the future with you. He was starting to look like he was wearing clown pants. ", "Come on now, sweetieI don't think there is any reason for us to avoid talking about it.". Let him know that you are there for him and encourage him to get the treatment that he needs if he is in fact dealing with depression. It might be that you hang around with people that he doesnt like, you have an outgoing personality that hes uncomfortable with or that he doesnt think that youll respect his views. A change in behavior from your significant other can be upsetting and confusing. When you go out, does he ask a million questions? That most likely explains the other side of the supposed shy guy when he is not pie eyed. Has certain things about him changed drastically such as his style or what he likes to do in bed? If this issue is causing him to act distant towards you, then something needs to change. "But Laur." he started, trailing off all of the sudden. Its not because he doesnt like you its just that he doesnt know what to say. In fact, many people cherish their relationships more when they carve out alone time for themselves. Because its a great way to get him to tell you what hes thinking. If a guy likes you, hell feel the need to talk about it with his friends but surprisingly, sometimes he doesnt want to talk about it with you! Why is he shy around me but not others? If you do make him feel uncomfortable then it would be likely that he would show other signs of being uncomfortable in his body language. That is unless he shows other body language signals that are out of the ordinary when he is around you. When trying to figure out what a guys body language might be suggesting it would be helpful to consider what his normal behavior looks like. He might not be able to express his feelings at first, but once he knows you understand him and are there for him, he will start opening up more and more. You can read more about me and my website here. So the best thing to do is just talk. It is nice to need other people, but what if he feels like you just need him too much? "What are you doing?" Unfortunately, most men dont know how to handle this type of problem. Im really interested in this guy and I know Im not crazy for thinking hes really into me too because weve talked about it multiple times. So he just sits there and looks at the girl he finds attractive. If he is acting distant, then you might have wondered if he wants to break up with you. Does he try to impress you? 1) Listen carefully and communicate with him. Has he been avoiding you? Because thats how guys are. This only makes them feel more depressed and helpless. One possibility is that he is afraid of committing to the relationship. "At least you could suggest something clean.". Are you always the one having to instigate any intimacy and affection? Here are some signs that he wants to end the relationship. Here are some signs that the fire has gone out in your relationship. Possible causes of a guy being quiet around you are that he finds you attractive and he is nervous, he doesnt like you, he is naturally quiet, or he might not like the people you hang out with. One of the worst feelings is when he acts distant all of a sudden. Guys like to give advice, and it can be helpful to ask for their opinion on something before you try and figure out the answer yourself. Similarly, he might have a hard day at work, being reprimanded by his boss for not hitting the sales target or failing to clinch a deal with a client. AS AN AMAZON ASSOCIATE, Body Language Central EARNS FROM QUALIFYING PURCHASES. If the answer to either of these questions is yes, then they may have voiced their concerns about the relationship to him. If he is having doubts, then talk it out and try to recreate that spark that you used to have. Unless he is telling you what is going on, then he could be going through anything. Having dilated pupils when talking to you, Pointing his feet at you even when hes not directly in front of you, Laughing and looking at you to see if you are as well, Holding eye contact with you for longer than normal, Glancing or staring at you and then quickly looking away or smiling when you notice, A lack of negative signals such as squinting, tight lips or a clenched jaw, Getting anxious when you are with other men, Getting defensive when other men are around, Adjusting his clothes or hair when he notices you, Standing or sitting in a way that shows his crotch area, Non-genuine smiles where he doesnt crease beside the eyes or open his mouth, Positioning himself so that he isnt near you. Possible causes of a guy being quiet around you are that he finds you attractive and he is nervous, he doesn't like you, he is naturally quiet, or he might not like the people you hang out with. While it is good to figure out what is going on, you cannot fixate on it too much. However, there are a few things you can do to help your guy friend remain silent: When it comes to communication, men are usually better at looking than listening. When he talks about himself and his feelings, he will often talk about himself and his feelings. 2. Those are additional signs of him being insecure or jealous. This is a big red flag that makes it very probable that he could be cheating. Its that simple. The cut was not what he was used to, but at least it didn't feel tight. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. But before you jump to conclusions, talk with him first to make sure that you are on the same page. Its important, to be honest with him about how you feel, even if it means telling him that you dont like something. "Iguess I'd better get started on dinner," he said, hurrying out of the room. Thats right! "I'd better go find something that fits" Jon said. It can be hard to know what to do when a guy is waiting for the right time before committing to anything. Guys can have a hard time understanding and expressing their emotions and it can be hard for them to be vulnerable even around their significant others. It could be the case that hes not actually being quiet around you rather he doesnt see you as a friend nor does he intend to become romantically involved with you. They have to be strong, confident, and ready to protect the women they love. The most obvious sign that the fire is gone is that you are no longer passionate anymore. When hes feeling upset or frustrated, it can be a lot easier for him to express his feelings if he knows that you understand and are there for him. Maybe he has been sending you mixed messages. Have you found a gift for a woman that is not for you? There is a saying that absence can make the heart grow fonder. They dont always like to talk about their feelings with other people. 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